
My private expertise with loss and lack of communication led me to develop a device to assist others “die effectively”.
Written By: Su Park
After I visited Mother in Korea I met her physician for the primary time. As a result of I stay in Canada I wasn’t updated on how her stage 4 most cancers was progressing.
“When are you visiting your mother once more?”
“Perhaps subsequent yr?”
The physician nodded with a smile and seemed down as I answered his query.
“Come again sooner for those who can.”
That was all he stated.
I keep in mind considering, “What does he imply? How a lot time does he suppose Mother has?”
However our time was up, and with out clearly expressing his intention, I used to be left to imagine its which means. Overwhelmed with concern and anxiousness, I cried a bit of, then determined to shake it off and go on with my life.
That was a yr earlier than Mother handed in December 2023.
As medical employees, how do you ship somebody’s prognosis? When he delivered the laborious fact with a lot ambiguity, it solely added extra uncertainty to my life. So I used to be fast to dismiss it.
Throughout her 4 years of chemo, my concern of dropping Mother sometimes arose. However with out giving it the reflection it deserved, I stored busy sweeping it underneath the rug. Then, the day her well being all of a sudden and quickly declined, it took everybody, together with Mother, by shock. And inside a number of days, earlier than I may hear her say how a lot she loves me one final time, she left us.
I take into consideration how shortly Mother needed to course of and put together for demise. About issues left unsaid, recollections unshared and closure unmet. It’s one thing I don’t want for others and their family members to undergo. This expertise drove me to assist create a greater end-of-life expertise for them.
Simply as Kath Murray and the group at Life and Demise Issues is striving to assist individuals put together to look after people who find themselves dying by offering training and help assets, my objective is to assist individuals put together for dying by way of a device to assist them talk – and go away a legacy for his or her kids.
DieWell is an after-death digital time capsule—guiding mother and father to go away messages which will be accessed after they die. These messages will be accessed on the most related instances of their kids’s lives, serving to them keep in mind their mother and father, have their lives touched by their mother and father, and are available to know their mother and father as they navigate by way of totally different levels of life. The information offers prompts to assist mother and father deal with subjects that could be essential from the 6 levels of a kid’s life (toddler → maturity).
Utilizing this assets mother and father can:
· Really feel reassured that their presence will be felt throughout life’s many milestones
· Be assured that their messages can play an important position of their kids’s progress
· Discover consolation in figuring out they’re fulfilling part of their position as a mum or dad
I invite you to share this useful resource with anybody who may discover it useful www.diewell.com . In utilizing this useful resource I hope that folks may really feel extra at peace of their dying, and that they may really feel extra in a position to “die effectively”.
Su Park may even be presenting on Feb 4 about DieWell’s Digital Time Capsule for Mother and father which you’ll register for the webinar right here or underneath the occasions tab.